This short film is 3 minutes and 17 seconds long. It’s in French, but you can turn on subtitles in several languages by clicking the CC in the bottom right. (For some reason, clicking the language you want is easier when in full screen mode.) You can also watch it on YouTube if you’re having trouble with Vimeo.
I love this little film. It’s accurate, relevant, important, and poignant. I don’t need to say much more. Just watch it. There’s a few small corrections I would make, but they don’t detract from the message of the film:
- The English translation says, “The small part we can see is only the gland [sic] of the clitoris.” This should say “glans.” Penises have a glans too, but we colloquially refer to the penis glans as the “head.”
- “It is much more ticklish than the penis.” I’m not sure if this claim can really be made, but it is likely due to the unsupported claim that the clitoris has 8000 nerve endings while the penis has 4000. The original source for this claim cannot be found (though it may be in the book “The Clitoris” by Thomas Lowry and Thea Snyder Lowry–I’m in the process of looking for that information.) What we do know is that the clitoris and the penis are homologous organs, meaning that they both developed from the same tissue in babies. Thus, they likely have the same number of nerve endings, but they are much more densely packed in the clitoris.
- “The clitoris’ existence has been well-known since Ancient Greece.” I am certain that the creator of this wonderful video is referring to written documentation of the clitoris. It is extremely, extremely unlikely that females were unaware of the clitoris until ancient Greek men discovered it.
This video makes several great points that I want to reiterate. Sigmund Freud really is the Number One enemy of the clitoris—at least in Western society. Expecting females to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone is like expecting males to orgasm from prostatic utricle stimulation alone! (The prostatic utricle and the vagina are homologous organs… but I’d never heard of the prostatic utricle until I googled “sex organs homologies.” Check it out!) Even orgasming from prostate (homologous to the paraurethral glands in females) stimulation alone is difficult for the males who can do it. And we don’t expect all males to orgasm from prostate stimulation. In fact, our culture is very good at respecting men who do not wish to engage in prostate stimulation (because you can only reach the prostate through the anus).
Stimulation of the clitoris should not just be during “foreplay”! You deserve to have your clitoris stimulated throughout the entire sexual experience (if that feels good to you). If your clitoris is getting neglected during vaginal penetration, ask for or demand clitoral stimulation. It is your right. If your male partner’s penis is getting stimulated to orgasm, you deserve to have your clitoris stimulated to orgasm too. You can use your hand, your partner’s hand, a vibrator, a vibrating cock ring, or pretty much anything that will fit in between your bodies. Alternatively, you can demand clitoral stimulation before, after, or instead of vaginal penetration. Sex can be whatever you want it to be. Some people literally never engage in vaginal penetration, and you don’t have to either if you don’t want to—even if you want to get pregnant. (This goes for gay men too—some gay men never have anal sex and only do blow jobs.) SEX CAN BE WHATEVER YOU WANT IT TO BE.